What we are all about
Author of the book
"Bodytraders, How to Transform Back From Player to Lover"
A relationships book to help people return to their natural state of love.
I hope you take an interest in reading this book. I wrote the majority of it during the 90's. I was a fun-loving single person during most of my life. Being single gave me the time to spend it any way I chose. 1993 was a very important year for me. I started hosting my very first show on WNN, the highly respected “Winners News Network.” That same year, I was introduced to America Online which at the time only has 200,000 subscribers. As many will remember, it was also when people were paying $2.95 an hour to use the social network.
A Hollywood producer friend of mine told me that by opening a room, I could reach and communicate many more people than I ever imagined. So one night about 2:00 A.M., I couldn’t sleep. I rolling out of bed and I turned on my computer. That night, I discovered for the first time the miracle of online chat rooms.
I decided to open a room called “RelationshipCoaching.” I realized the very subject that most impassioned me, that excited thousands of my radio listeners, was right under my nose. I realized the people who chatted in these rooms about their husbands and wives, lovers and quarrels, hopes and dreams, wanted some clarity to make their lives work better.
I resolved I would continue to open my own chat room where I could listen and share some of the knowledge I had learned over the years about having more complete, fulfilling relationships. Little did I know that this commitment would change my life forever.
In the coming years, I chose to spend a lot of my spare time online helping others with the knowledge I had already accumulated from a fifteen year self-study about love, sex and dating. A little voice in my head said, “do it without asking anyone for money. It will all work out.”
Ten Years Later
By 2003, I accumulated over 6000 detailed, intimate on-line discussions as the original Luvcoach on AOL. I found a vast majority of people looking for relationships left love behind as their motivation in life. Instead, they started looking for the “best deal” they could find. Some chose to push themselves to earn as much money as possible so they could attract the best looking or sexy mate. Others made themselves look as desirable as possible so they could attract the person who could best keep them in the lifestyle they so want to live.
The reason I wrote this book was to report that thousands of people let me know something that has never been written about in any other book. They told me that the reason they chose someone was because they thought a person looked like the “best deal” to serve their needs. This seemingly ideal substitution for a relationship had tremendous drawbacks. So many reported that they chose this path because they were afraid to take a chance on love and getting their heart broken. I am here to tell you that I found out from thousands of people that they were more stimulated by the intellectual challenge of pursuing someone and winning them over than by anything else. They were instead looking for the best deal or what I call “Bodytrading.” This approach to happiness does not work and will not ever work.
Anyone who has been hurt and is tired of the game as they attempted to make it work will want to read this book. Those who have not yet loved will be able to learn from other people's mistakes that are pursuing relationships that lack depth and commitment. With this new information, those wanting intimacy again will be able to venture out and take a chance on love and life again. The book will help with insights that will save people years of frustration and heartbreak.
“Bodytraders” is a step by step guide that will allow us to return to something we all crave in our lives and may not even know it....love!
This book will help any single or relationships minded person wanting to let go of destructive, empty, gameplaying relationships feel strong enough to want to feel love in their hearts again in a healthy relationship.
I am a researcher. For the last thirty-five years, I have been doing what I have passion for. I have been searching for the answers to the question, ''what is the greatest problem today in the world of relationships?'' I did this not being a Ph.D. because I believe that if the answers to modern-day relationship problems could be found in conventional psychotherapy books, we would be living in a better, healthier and happier society by now. Instead, we are more troubled and unhappy than ever before.
I have independently and through fairly unconventional methods, come to learn the most challenging obstacles for two people to find each other and share a life of love and devoted companionship. The dynamics describing why it has become increasingly difficult to have love is one not yet written about...until now in “Bodytraders.”
A completed e-book with 120 pages – 43,000 words
I believe that: ''As I go, so goes the world. If my heart is at unrest and even at war with others, so goes the world. If I can change just one heart at a time from bitterness to love, there will be less war and more peace in the world.''
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Love Adventure Tours
The Love Adventure Tours
For the Person Who Has “Everything But Love”
In my life, I have known many people who seem to “have everything but love.” They appear to be happy with the home they live in, the car they drive, the job they have and all the entertaining adult toys they possess. Many are indeed happy with their lives, but for many others, they know something is missing. Many know that what is missing from their lives is someone to share it with. They very much would like to be with the love of their lives in a caring, warm, deep relationship?
To respond to the millions of people in the world who “have everything but love,” I have created an original concept that will allow people to meet the love of their life in a fun, adventurous and safe place. As a relationship coach and consultant, I am committing the rest of my life to hosting and presenting a series of weekend and seven day workshops at exciting locations around the world called “The Love Adventure Tours!” I will host men and women who have “everything but love” who would also like to have “everything AND love!”
So, together with a team of qualified experts in the relationship arena, we will be presenting state-of-the-art workshops and processes that will initiate a deep healing. This healing of the heart will create and allow a fresh, new space for the attendee to enjoy a deeper, more intimate relationship with an appropriate mate.
Who will be the typical attendee?
The typical attendee has been working hard the last ten, twenty or even thirty years to build their financial status in the corporate world or businesses? They have a nice home, car or boat to enjoy life. As a result, it is quite likely they have put very little time or effort into what it takes to enter into an intimate, committed, warm life-long relationship. If you have already come to terms with the fact that your approach to “finding love” in the past has not worked, if you desire to be in a relationship based on attraction and trust with a best friend and are now ready to love and be loved in return, you are the perfect person along with twenty to forty others who also feel the same!
The “Love Adventure Tour” workshops will be held monthly around the world. Joining me will be various other notable personal relationship guides, shamans, coaches and presenters who are skilled at delivering fun, entertaining and informative seminars to teach the necessary and important tools to having and attracting love.
What has gone wrong in our romantic love relationships?
I believe we are like electrical charges. Scientists will agree and back up that statement. When we put out good vibrations as the Beach Boys song so beautifully sing about, all is well in our world and the world around us.
In the last twenty to thirty years, many have gone away from the basic tenants in life that bring us happiness. We have focused our lives on issues that we thought would bring us happiness, but have not and as a result, there are many more unhappy people in the world than ever before. Why is that? We have turned away from love, kindness and compassion in search of happiness. Since this goes against the basic nature of spirit, when we didn't find happiness in sex, money, fame, power or drugs, alcohol...or even chocolate, we became bitter, angry and unhappy with life, our jobs, our money and financial affairs.
When times are tough, we put ourselves in situations where our hearts get broken, we get rejected or have relationships with people we counted on to bring us happiness. When those unhealthy relationships based on a shaky foundations eventually fail, we become miserable. What happens after that determines how we do in the life for years or even decades to come.
I believe as we go, so goes the world. If we are unhappy and bitter, we put that vibration out into the world. With tens or maybe even hundreds of millions of people putting out those negative vibes, or electricity than ever before, we effect the balance in nature for the negative..or worst. We literally effect the world around us and it shows in unmatched powerful, devastating earthquakes, hurricanes, tsunamis, and tornadoes tearing up entire cities and towns.
How can we get back on the right track?
Each and every one of us needs to learn to open our hearts and feel love again. We need to return to sending out good vibrations into the world. I believe one way we can do this together will be to come together at “Love Adventure Tours.”
What is special about “Love Adventure Tours?”
These tours will be a place where accomplished and successful people will come together in a positive and supportive environment over a period of time. Being together for more than a few hours gives people a chance to really get to know each other. I believe the best way to do this is to attend a three, four or seven day transformational relationship event at a romantic, sometimes exotic location around the world such as islands in the Caribbean, Italy or Hawaii.
Days spent together under one roof or beach umbrella, will make it possible for the attendees to really get to know each other, observe each other, work with each other, without the typical ferocious, aggressive methods usually needed to get someones attention at a bar, club or even the supermarket. At a Love Adventure Tour, people get to experience each other naturally and over time. There is no better way to meet someone than at an extended time workshop away from cellphones, faxes, computers and news from the outside world.
By exploring and uncovering the destructive roles people play in past relationships, attendees with gain valuable tools customized to help you be open to love once again. When our time is over together, you will have the positive skills, approach and outlook to become your own relationship coach! In addition, you will have follow-up support available to help you continue the good work and progress regardless of the challenges and issues that come up for you in the weeks and months to follow.
These “All Inclusive Love Tours” will include meals and first-class lodging. The finest food in the region will be available for breakfast, lunch, dinner and at breaks. Transfers to and from the airport as well as transportation to top tourist attraction field trips are part of the package.
One on One Relationship Coaching
I would like to talk about the value of personal one-on-one relationship coaching with a qualified relationship coach. Let me tell you a little about me and how I came to be THE LUVCOACH.
I have been on a self-study of several different philosophies on life since 1975, mostly to help me with my own relationships. Being single most of my adult life, I took what he learned from these studies and healed many of the issues keeping me from being in a committed, monogamous relationship. I am now happily married and have a wonderful eight year old daughter.
I began my relationship in radio and television in the early 90's you can read about on another page. That same year, I learned about America Online which you can also read more about. Over a ten year period of time, I had over 6000 intimate, detailed, documented conversations helping many people, but also learning an incredible amount of information from the very people I helped. From these conversations, I unlocked a mystery that has never-before written about before and that will open hearts and change things for so many people looking for love!
Life and Personal Relationship Coach?
I have been in the business world for many years. Even though I have shied away for the most part from corporate life, one thing I noticed that they do is when they have a problem that does not need full time attention, they find someone who can find answers to their problems or challenges. One way they do this is to hire a consultant.
They do this to find short term answers for problems they haven't been able to solve on their own. Instead of hiring a full time employee, sometimes they bring in knowledgeable, experienced consultants. When this expert is needed, he is called in to take care of a problem.
Why not do the same for your challenges and problems concerning your relationships, love, sex and dating life?
An experienced relationship coach can help you work through, understand and cast aside fear and intimacy issues that have prevented you from having the happiness you deserve. You have worked long and hard at your careers or businesses and have everything but love in your life. Why not have your own relationship coach guide you through every step of the dating and relationship process that will bring you closer to meeting and then keeping your future soul mate!
Who wouldn’t want their own private relationship coach to guide them through the tricky and potentially heartbreaking relationship maze? A coach would be there for you when you are about to do something you may eventually regret. A coach is someone who would prevent you from making relationship ending mistakes and clarify right from wrong choices. The coach has a grander, less biased vision of life and who will be there for you to save you months or years of pain from rejection or a broken heart!
Don't wait another minute to let go of destructive, unproductive habits preventing you from being in love. A relationship coach can help you have everything....and Love in your life. Are you worth having a loving, kind, warm and supportive person in your life? If your approach has not worked, contact me right away! If you don't think you are worthy of love, contact me even sooner!
The next step!
Let's set up a series of consultations that will take you from where you are now, possibly alone and lonely, to being a positive person that will find it much easier to attract people. Our work will not be about how to pick up chicks or guys. It will not be about talking to or dating as many people as possible and hoping that through the volume of people, you are bound to hopefully, eventually meet someone.
Our work will be about opening your heart. It will show you how you will live a much happier and productive life with an open heart and as a kind and caring person. Together, we will break down the barriers that have been preventing you from being in love in the past.
How we do it!
We can do this from the comfort of your own home, anywhere in the world. We will do this over the internet and preferably written in private conversations so you can look back at those discussions to continue the learning and opening process on your own.
Here is a typical session that I had. Remember, I have already helped thousands of people over a ten year period in over 6000 conversations.
Are all the good ones taken?
Good One: Well, I seem to have this problem finding the right person. It seems all the good ones are taken. I know you've heard that before. Maybe I'm just trying too hard or don't know where to go to meet the right people. I have met people but they are seeing other people. It gets very frustrating. When I tell myself not to worry about it and go on, I meet someone but they're taken and just looking for a one-night stand - I'm over that!
COACH: If you seem to only notice the “taken” ones, you are only attracted to unavailable people! You will find them anywhere you go. You need to look at why you don’t get turned on by the available ones.
Good One: I don't know any. Why do you think? How do I know if they're available or not? It seems as if there are no "good ones" available.
COACH: It cannot possibly be true that all the good ones are taken. It seems the ones you are attracted to are people that don’t show you any interest or they don’t pursue you because they are already with someone. You are very good at picking that up in people and the challenge to win them over kicks in.
They have that “not so interested look.” They appear self-assured, cocky...a bit arrogant. They look as if they know something you don’t know. They have that detached look. The reason is, if they are wanting to find something on the side, they look for the ones who will go along with their game and not mind if they are taken. They are not available emotionally. You know the type, safe, hard to get, if you get to close...they will leave.
Good One: Yes.
COACH: How do you know they are taken? Their attitude is, ”If you want me on my terms...great. Then I do not have to feel guilty when I leave you later. If you wanted more, you should not have started with me and you knows this. If you cry foul later, there is no one to blame but yourself.”
The sooner you stop finding unavailable or uninterested people attractive, the sooner you will leave the space to meet someone who wants to be with you for the right reasons. Right now, you are only attracted to people who just want to stimulate your mind in gameplaying, not with someone who will stimulate your heart.
You secretly know that you have been so hurt in the past, you are protecting your heart. You are the one not letting someone in who you can love and who can love you. Until you work on your self-love, feeling worthy of love, are ready to love…nothing will change. Those people that have learned to like, love and respect themselves, would never allow themselves to start a relationship with someone they know is not there for them or in their highest good.
Having your own personal relationship coach!
All a person needs is the willingness to move past what doesn't work and do whatever they have to do to be successful. In business, people hire consultants. If achieving happiness and contentment in your personal life is important to you, find a relationship coach who can move you from what doesn't work and walk you through methods that will save you years of loneliness and discontent. Love yourself enough to push through the doubt and find someone you have confidence can help you.
Tell me you read about this on the Luvcoach.net website and you will receive the first series of sessions at 50% off the normal rate of $100 per hour. The first ten minute consultation is always free! Future payments can be made by Paypal and direct deposit. I have a Wells Fargo account.
I look forward to helping as many people as I can want to have more love, more contentment, more kindness in their lives. Don't buy into the news that the world is becoming a cold-hearted place. That may be true for many, but there are still millions and millions of people who feel the same as you.
Contact me today and lets get started to make your world a kinder, more loving place with someone who is kind, supportive and your best friend!
Tony "The Tiger" Lopez
(Three Time World Middle Weight Champion)
Don't let anyone give you the knockout punch in relationships!
What They Are Saying About Bodytraders!
This is an excellent book about contemporary dating issues that takes the mystery
out of the pains of dating and addresses what to look for to find an intimate love
Dr. Pat Allen
As seen many times as a "Expert Guest on Millionaire Matchmaker"
Author of “Getting To I Do”
and “Staying Married and Loving It”
"In this oh-so complicated world of relationships, Bruce Starr
(LuvCoach) has used his many years of professional relationship coaching,
to help people everywhere see through their self-sabotaging behaviors
and ultimately how to get through to the other side, where healthy long lasting love is waiting....."
Patrice Karst author of God Made Easy, The Single Mother's Survival Guide and The Invisible String
P.O Box 9055
God Made Easy,The Single Mother's Survival Guide, The Invisible String
Bruce, I've been reading your manuscript.
I think you are doing a fine job with it.
Keep up the good work.
Father Joe Girzone
Notable as the author of the Joshua series.
Hi again! I absolutely loved reading your book. It gave me chills when I read it. You really have a knack for putting your thoughts into words. I was amazed at your insight. I really had expected to read it and email you back all the things that I differed with. Well, I was wrong. I think you have a lot of people pegged. Look forward to discussing it with you more in depth. Have some questions for you.
Thank you for the email and enclosures. I just read your entire book this evening. Very interesting, totally excellent job. Your book would be even more terrific in hard copy. Very powerful material. I can see you on book signings at Barnes and Noble, etc.... and on radio and lecture series about the book. This broad base publicity would lend credibility to the weeklong long retreats.
Recently, I feel I had the fortune to read your dynamic book titled 'BodyTraders'. I feel the contents taught me many valuable techniques to improve and enhance my lifestyle with those I love and those I come in contact with on a daily basis. You have a definite ability to deal with the many facets of life and love that prove to be an enrichment in everyone's life.
Please let me know when you will be speaking in the Chicago area, as I know many people that I have spoken to about this book that would more than love to attend.
A fan from Chicago
Thank you for writing this book. It gave me insight into why many of my past relationships did not work. It helped me learn how to be aware of how to be in a healthy relationship. Where were you a few years ago? You could have saved me lots of unnecessary heartache.
I have read many books on relationships. None of them touched on what was troubling me and most of my single friends. I was taking part in playing games without even knowing it. This book showed me that to find the love of my life, I had to let go of gameplaying and have trust and faith that by being the best person I can be, I would than attract the best person for me.
Lorin Z, CA